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Guilt

Living far from your loved one with dementia can be very difficult.  You might feel guilty for not being there for them, but at the same time, you can’t afford to move your life in the short-term.  Do you have any suggestions to help caregivers who are in this situation to cope?

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submitted by LMacey on Tuesday, 03/08/2011 - 3:42pm

I don't have any suggestions as to how to cope and I can understand what you are going through.  I recently had to make the decision to admit my mother to a care home. I was in the throes of looking to move from Scotland to down south and have put this on hold as I cannot bear to leave her behind.  I feel that I have let her down and committed her to a home that is not her own.  Maybe others can relate and I would like to know how you deal with such terrible decisions.Lorna 

submitted by Vivian on Thursday, 03/24/2011 - 1:18am

Hello! I am sorry that I do not have any magic answers for you.  I have placed both of my in-laws into a facility and it is tough, no matter what anyone says.  The hardest part was trusting someone else to care for your loved ones.  I hope that you will lean on God to get you through this difficult time.  I felt a heavy burden lifted from my heart almost immediately when it was time to place my mother-in-law with senile dementia into a nursing home.  When that happend, I felt relief over the decision.  She spent 9 happy years there and I was happy on how she was taken care of. I wish you the best!

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